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Monday, July 26, 2010

Weird Grocery Event

I was in Publix today (Atlantic & Military in Delray), along with everyone else within miles, it seemed, and only 3 checkout lanes were open, one being a 10 item or less, which I couldn't use. The other 2 lanes had long lines, so I got into the line that seemed to be moving the fastest, and sure enough, on that score I chose well. As I stood there, watching the cashier ring people up, I noticed that to each customer, before starting to scan groceries, she asked, "Any coupons for me today?" I heard her do this with 3 customers. So, when I was up, and she was getting ready to scan my groceries, I handed her my one coupon. She took the coupon and stared at it as if it were fouled with something vile, and then looked blankly back at me.

So, I said, "You asked the customers ahead of me if they had any coupons, and I have a coupon." She said sort of miffed, "Well, I don't need THIS," as she waved it through the air. "I keep a copy of the circular right here and all I need is the coupon number; I don't need THIS," she repeated.  "Then why do you ask people if they have any coupons?" I asked. "In case they have some OTHER kind of coupons," she replied.

Thursday, July 22, 2010

The Daves

As what has proven to be my monastic poverty summer inspires me to use the library for diversion, I have discovered first on the web and then through their books, the two Daves who, if followed, could improve my life substantially. They are Dave Ramsey, author of Financial Peace and other titles, and David Allen, of Getting Things Done.  I heard about Allen from heathervescent whose youtube post demonstrating how to create a GTD (getting things done) notebook put me on to the existence of Allen's system. I then checked out his audio book (the only format available at the time) from the library, and put a hold on the paper copy. At around the same time (2 weeks ago, possibly), I watched another video by the compelling antishay who mentioned the snowballing method of eliminating credit card--and other forms of--debt popularized by Dave Ramsey. Although Financial Peace was checked out of my local library,  I was able to order from the main branch another of his titles, The Total Money Makeover which, supplemented by reading his website, explains the plan that he has created for getting out of debt and building financial security.

So, I created the GTD notebook, and am implementing Ramsey's plan. GTD helps me as its name suggests get things done and be more productive, reducing stress and clutter, which I have also tried to tame with the help of Peter Walsh's book It's All Too Much, which I also checked out from the library. I have made many trips to the Haven Thrift store here in Delray Beach, with donations of books, clothes and other items that I had purged to make room for clarifying space.  I have plowed through boxes of files and papers, and filled at least two trash bags with irrelevant stuff that I was saving for what purpose I don't know. I also took three identical bookshelves that I had bought at the Haven last summer, cannabalized shelves from the most damaged one, inserted those shelves into the other two so that they could hold more books, and asked my friend to make the third shelf into a a low-standing shelf where my son could drop his book bag and other stuff on returning from school each day. It looks great and now stands where the banged up shelf once stood, crammed with all sorts of children's books he'd outgrown and other junk.  On the wall above the shelf hangs his long board on two hooks, and this weekend's project is the construction and installation of a pegboard from which I hope to hang from hooks a lot of other items that now clutter my kid's room.  

The rest of the house is looking better too, but there is more work to go.  The GTD book helps to capture all of the plans, projects and tasks that need doing, both short and long term, as a cornerstone of Allen's thesis is that the human mind is not ideal for remembering things that need to be done and reminding us to do them at the right time. He is right at least for me that I remember that I need to do something not at the ideal time for doing it, such as at 3 in the morning when I can't sleep. By checking the GTD notebook frequently, and writing in every little thing that I need to do, I get more things done with less worry, and forgetfulness.

As to the other Dave, I am creating a zero-dollar budget, and am not spending any money that I don't need to spend. I'm accepting dinner invitations from friends, two this week alone, and am eating what food I have in the house even though it's not what I would choose to eat necessarily. I've reorganized the pantry so that I can see what I have, and now need to do a fridge cleanout and do the same. I'm not buying any clothes (which I rarely buy anyway), or books (using the library), renting movies (library again), and have collected all binders, folders, loose-leaf paper, pens and other school supplies from which my son can shop when he returns so that we don't have to buy supplies this year.  He can take the bare necessities until he gets syallabi and then we will shop the supply box before the store.  Of course the sad thing is that tax-free weekend falls before he will get his actual supply lists from the teachers. Oh well.

Although I was already making good progress on getting out of debt before I heard of Dave Ramsey (I have already paid off two credit cards this year), I really believe that I will make even more progress now with his zero-dollar budget and envelope plans.  I feel very hopeful right now, and encouraged about my progress in this area.  When my raise at work goes into effect next month, I will take that increase and use it to retire debt rather than increase my living standard, as I've done in the past.

I feel very hopeful now, thanks to the Daves.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Three Writers' Deaths Overshadowed

This has been a rough year for me where losing favorite writers is concerned, which is not to say that I knew any of them personally, but as any devoted reader knows, it's easy to feel attached to a writer after awhile simply by repeated close readings of his work.  The pain of these losses is worse, however, when these deaths are ignored by the press, or overshadowed by the death of someone even more famous at around the same time, and whom the press considers more important and more interesting to cover.

So, first came Louis Auchincloss on January 26, 2010.  Although he is a novelist, I  have read only his short stories, which are well-crafted works of art and genius.  His stories remind me of Woody Allen's New York movies in setting and the social class of his characters, and the loneliness and disillusionment epitomized by the stories and novels of Richard Yates.  I confess to having discovered Auchincloss in an ignominious way: on a car trip to USF to do some holistic scoring for the state some years ago, I stopped as I often did at the Goodwill store in Brandon, FL just outside Tampa where I picked up a hardcover, still plastic slip-covered, of "The Collected Stories of Louis Auchincloss" that had been withdrawn from the Tampa-Hillsborough County Library. I began reading the stories that very night in my hotel room, transfixed. Since then I've seen many of these hardcovers at booksales and thrift stores, so I guess they were remaindered from stores and pulled from library circulation in other places too. Well, in fairness to the Times, it did run a nice obituary about Auchincloss, but that seemed to be the end of it. Unless I missed it, one of those laurel-wreathed "Appreciations" at the bottom of the editorial page was not written about him, nor did I see articles in the arts section as sometimes appear following the death of a writer.

Say, like--J. D. Salinger, also who died on January 27, 2010, the day after Auchincloss.  You can see where this is going.  Everybody knows Salinger and has read "Catcher" as it is abbreviatedly called now, and practically everyone has read "Franny and Zoey" (when my son was about 2, we met a set of twins at the park one day, named Franny and Zoey--these are probably not the only ones, nor Seymours for that matter) and "Seymour, An Introduction," "Nine Stories," and "Raise High the Roof Beam, Carpenter."  And he'd been a recluse and so on, so the press went absolutely nuts over him, giving Auchincloss, who might have on a slow news day possibly reached the attention of a few readers not familar with his work, no chance at all.

The same thing happened with poor Howard Zinn who YES also died on January 27, 2010. Unlike with Auchincloss, though, who did get a nice obit with a picture and lots of detailed biography from the Times, I frantically searched the papers for days for Zinn's obituary. Finally, I phoned the NYT, and the woman who took my call said that the obit had been published in the Metro section, not the front section. "The METRO section?" I howled. Her reason was that he was born in New York. Yes, I said, but he spent his life in and around Cambridge, MA and was a national and international figure.  He wasn't only a local. Well, she directed me to the online article, but it wasn't the same and I was very angry about this because I knew that it was all because the paper was in an absolute froth over Salinger and simply could not be bothered with poor old leftist Howard Zinn, despite a few mentions later, which did not make up in any way for the dearth of attention right after his death.

Which leaves us this week with Harvey Pekar.  He died on July 12, 2010, and George Steinbrenner the next day, the 13th.  Pekar got some press because he'd been on TV before ("Letterman") and had a movie made about him, and of course was a writer of comics, much more accessible to people than the the sometimes 40- page long stories of a writer like Auchincloss.  But even Pekar lacked a fighting chance despite these factors against a sports figure like Steinbrenner.  It doesn't matter what someone writes in America; sports will trump writing every time. I'm sure that Steinbrenner was important, but it just seems that Pekar's death is being overshadowed by Steinbrenner's, thereby preventing people from properly mourning, remembering, and perhaps even discovering him (beyond the movie, that is).

Another writer this year (April 25, 2010) whose death really stung was that of Alan Sillitoe, the UK's quintessential angry young man whose story of a borstal boy "The Loneliness of the Long Distance Runner" captured a political mood and a social restlessness as well as any literary work ever has.  No larger death overshadowed his, and he was recognized in the Times with a nice obituary, but beyond that, I carried the sadness alone.  And that's been the hardest part of all of this, in a way.  To go to work, at a job where people supposedly are well read, and hear not a peep from anyone about Sillitoe, or Auchincloss, or Zinn.  There's no sense of community to commiserate with or reminisce with either about these authors.  There's nothing more depressing than telling someone you care about that one of your favorite writers died that day and hearing in response, "Who? Never heard of him."

So silently I recall the ways that these writers have spoken to me, and the nights I've spent reading their work, and the fact that their books are in easy reach, not in a far off room, and that I can put my hands on them right away, and that they are writers whose work I have not only read, but re-read, as I do now, after each death. I neatly scissor out each obituary, even (sigh) Salinger's, fold it up, and tuck it into the pages of one of that author's magnificent books, so that at least I will remember, even if no one else in my Delray world will.